PART III The Initial Consultation with Your Divorce Attorney: What to Expect When You Don’t Know What to Expect

PART III

The Initial Consultation with Your Divorce Attorney:
What to Expect When You Don’t Know What to Expect

If children were born or adopted of the marriage who have not yet graduated from high school, your prospective attorney will need to be informed. More specifically, the attorney will need to know the children’s ages, dates of birth, addresses at which the children have lived during the past five years, and all health or psychological issues confronting each child. Many attorneys will also ask you for a description of each child’s personality. Most attorneys will also ask for your assessment of your parenting skills and your spouse’s parenting skills. The more insight you can provide into each child’s personality and each parent’s parenting skills, the easier it will be for your prospective attorney to assess the numerous issues pertaining to physical custody, legal custody, and parenting time/visitation. To the extent that your children may have potential preferences as to with whom they wish to live, this angle must be explored, although it is not always of significant relevance. As part of the interview process, it is imperative that you receive an honest assessment of the legal issues pertaining to your minor children, rather than be told what you want to hear. This can only be accomplished with your complete honesty and
cooperation.

CIVIL CASES – THE BASICS

In a civil trial, a judge or jury examines the evidence to decide whether, by a “preponderance of the evidence,” the defendant should be held legally responsible for the damages alleged by the plaintiff. A trial is the plaintiff’s opportunity to argue his or her case, in the hope of obtaining a judgment against the defendant. A trial also represents the defendant’s chance to refute the plaintiff’s case, and to offer his or her own evidence related to the dispute at issue. After both sides have presented their arguments, the judge or jury considers whether to find the defendant liable for the plaintiff’s claimed damages, and if so, to what extent (i.e. the amount of money damages a defendant must pay, or some other remedy). Depending on the type of case being heard, a civil trial may not necessarily focus only on the plaintiff’s allegations and the defendant’s liability. For example, in most divorce cases a trial judge reaches a decision after hearing allegations from both sides of the dispute, and enters a judgment that may favor one spouse on one issue (child custody), and the other spouse as to another issue (alimony). The following overview discussion of a civil trial is presented mostly in the context of a typical”plaintiff vs. defendant" civil case. (Note: Although a trial is the most high-profile phase of the civil lawsuit process, the vast majority of civil disputes are resolved well before trial — and in some cases before a lawsuit is even filed — via settlement between the parties, alternative dispute resolution (ADR) processes like arbitration and mediation, or through dismissal of the case.) A complete civil trial typically consists of six main phases, each of which is described in more detail below: Choosing a Jury Opening Statements Witness Testimony and Cross-Examination Closing Arguments Jury Instruction Jury Deliberation and Verdict Choosing a Jury Except in cases that are tried only before a judge (i.e. most family court cases), one of the first steps in any civil trial is selection of a jury. During jury selection, the judge (and usually the plaintiff and the defendant through their respective attorneys) will question a pool of potential jurors generally and as to matters pertaining to the particular case — including personal ideological predispositions or life experiences that may pertain to the case. The judge can excuse potential jurors at this stage, based on their responses to questioning. Also at this stage, both the plaintiff and the defendant may exclude a certain number of jurors through use of “peremptory challenges” and challenges “for cause.” A peremptory challenge can be used to exclude a juror for any reason (even gender and ethnicity in civil cases), and a challenge for cause can be used to exclude a juror who has shown that he or she cannot be truly objective in deciding the case. Opening Statements Once a jury is selected, the first “dialogue” in a personal injury trial comes in the form of two opening statements — one from the plaintiff’s attorney, and the other from an attorney representing the defendant. No witnesses testify at this stage, and no physical evidence is ordinarily utilized. Because the plaintiff must demonstrate the defendant’s legal liability based on the plaintiff’s allegations, the plaintiff’s opening statement is usually given first, and is often more detailed than that of the defendant. In some cases, the defendant may wait until the conclusion of the plaintiff’s main case before making its own opening statement. Regardless of when opening statements are made by either side in a personal injury case, during those statements: The plaintiff presents the facts of the case and the defendant’s alleged role in causing the plaintiff’s damages (or reasons to find for the plaintiff) — basically walking the jury through what the plaintiff intends to demonstrate in order to get a civil judgment against the defendant. The defendant’s attorney gives the jury the defense’s own interpretation of the facts, and sets the stage for rebutting the plaintiff’s key evidence and presenting any “affirmative” defenses to the plaintiff’s allegations (or reasons to find for the defendant). When a civil lawsuit involves multiple parties (i.e. where three individual plaintiffs sue one defendant, or one plaintiff sues two separate defendants), attorneys representing each party may give their own distinct opening arguments.

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PART II: The Initial Consultation with Your Divorce Attorney: Know What to Expect

The Initial Consultation with Your Divorce Attorney:
What to Expect When You Don’t Know What to Expect

The Name, Rank, and Serial Number Types of Questions:
The first series of questions usually pertains to name, address(es), phone numbers, dates of birth, and social security numbers for you and your spouse. The reason this information is
needed is so that the attorney can be prepared to file a case, if necessary, on short notice should you call back in two days, two weeks, two months, or two years. What you do not want to occur
is for you to call the attorney back several weeks down the road, if and when you need immediate action, and have the attorney not be in possession of the basic information to proceed with filing papers with a court on your behalf. It is okay to provide address and telephone contact information; no one is going to call you at any telephone number or send you any mail at any address without your express permission.
The next series of questions usually pertains to the details of your current marriage and any prior marriages. The attorney will need to know when you were married, by whom you were married, and where the marriage took place. Not only must this information be included in any initial paperwork filed with a court, but sometimes issues arise relative to defects in the marriage arising out of the marriage ceremony. Similarly, the attorney will need details relative to the termination of any prior marriages, whether they ended by death or divorce (primarily in order to ascertain whether there were any impediments to the current marriage which might be raised as a procedural defense). Included in the inquiry relative to prior marriages will be questions pertaining to children from prior relationships, child support still being paid or received, and
spousal support still being paid or received. All of this information has a potential impact on the attorney’s assessment of your current situation. Whether you or your spouse has previously filed for a divorce from the other, or whether your spouse has consulted an attorney, are also important parts of the evaluation process. To the extent your prospective attorney has some insight as to the identity of the judge to whom the case has been assigned (if your spouse has already filed a case) or the identity of opposing counsel, the more precise the attorney can be in advising you what to expect during the process and as a potential outcome. Each judge has different tendencies, opinions, and idiosyncrasies, and every opposing counsel handles his or her cases with different degrees of sophistication and professionalism. However, in most instances, the identity of the judge and opposing counsel cannot be ascertained until a case is commenced.

The Initial Consultation: What to Expect When You Don’t Know What to Expect

We’re here to help, here is a short synopsis of what to expect when you meet with Mr. Paynter.

Few people truly want to consult with a matrimonial attorney relative to a divorce. When confronted with the possibility of a divorce and the potential need for a matrimonial attorney,
most people have no idea what to expect during their initial contact and consultation. In fact, for most people contacting a matrimonial attorney, it will be their first contact with any attorney.
Take a deep breath and relax. While the possibility of a divorce may seem daunting, and your problems may seem to lack potential solutions, matrimonial attorneys, through their
professional skill and experience, understand what you are going through and know how to solve your problems.

What to Expect From Your First Meeting: During your initial consultation with a
matrimonial attorney, expect the attorney to provide you with an overview of what to anticipate relative to at least the following five issues: (1) the divorce process, (2) matters pertaining to any
minor children of the marriage, (3) division of your assets and liabilities, (4) support (both child support and spousal support), and (5) the related attorneys’ fees and costs. In order to be able to
address these five primary issues for you and provide you with a potential game plan, it be will necessary for the attorney to make a substantial inquiry into all sorts of matters. Some of the questions will be name, rank, and serial number types of questions; other questions will pertain to minor children; additional questions will be related to financial matters; and other questions will be of a more personal nature in terms of any precipitating events and “who did what to whom.” Know that when answering these questions the attorney-client privilege is in effect, meaning anything you tell to the attorney will not, and cannot, be repeated to anyone without
your permission. With that understanding, it is imperative that you tell the attorney the truth and provide all of the related details. The quality of the advice you receive will be directly proportional to the candor with which you answer the attorney’s questions.

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